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It’s not like I’ve forgotten what loving my ex was like. It’s not possible, and it’s always going to be a part of my story. But after a lot of crying, self-doubting and all the stages of a breakup, I decided to write a post on what I appreciate about that relationship.
And I sincerely hope this post can help you if you’re in a similar position.
It’s still hard for me to listen to songs we used to sing to and photos of precious moments. But I’ve mustered some courage and willingness to write something I appreciate about my relationship with my ex because it was a special one when it lasted.
I learnt what I’m capable of doing when I really love a person. I could cross the seas and brave turbulous skies as I flew back and forth to be near to the one I love. I could see the new environment as a livable place and adapt to the local food, culture and way of living. I could push myself to look for work there in order to pay bills and have a good lifestyle.
Most importantly though, I never gave up. I’ve never given up on the person I love, and I stayed by their side until they left me.
I also learnt that I’m not as patient as I thought I was, and I’m not able to focus on one thing at a time (I tend to multitask and get distracted). I’m also not always good at communicating effectively and I need to be more mindful of the impact of my language on others. I still cannot cook very well but enough to feed myself and the one I love.
And I learnt that when I love someone, I am determined to see the world through rose-tinted glasses. It’s as if the world can only be more beautiful.
At least, that’s what I get myself into, when I’m happily loving someone.
One day, I’ll be happy again.