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Someone will always be happy or unhappy with what you’re doing. Some other will even want to approve or disapprove of what you eat and where you work too.

And sometimes, they really know where to push your buttons so you’d feel frustrated and annoyed by them. They appear to be insensitive or can’t be bothered that they have managed to get to you – even if you’re simply minding your own business.

So what do you do when you meet people who are hard core believers of their own beliefs and preferences? The following might help:

1. Focus on their behavior

If they’re able to behave like civilized people while discussing with you, you can focus on their actions rather than who they are as you don’t know for sure who they really are; they might not even know themselves!

So look at what they’re doing. Are they cursing, insulting, hurtling abuse or physically abusing you? If they exhibit any of these toxic behaviors, you have to let them know it is not ok by simply walking away or telling them it is not ok. By keeping silent and allowing their abuse to continue, you’re encouraging them to continue their abusing of you and that’s not ok. 

2. Realise that they’re themselves, just as you are yourself

Just like you have your own values and beliefs, they have theirs too. If everyone can discuss to compromise or appreciate one another’s individuality, then the differences can make life interesting. But if you don’t like people pushing their agenda upon you, you don’t have to push yours upon them either. 

Accept that they have their own beliefs and preferences based on their own unique life experiences, and that you have yours as well. The problem only comes when someone wants to tell the other what to do or make the other person feel bad for being themselves.

People who are open minded will make the effort to listen to what others say, without agreeing or disagreeing outwardly. 

3. Understand that everyone has their own way of life

You may not like the way some people live, for example, couples who still live with their parents. Maybe the couple is your sibling and his or her spouse. You don’t like the fact that your parents are washing their clothes and making sure they have dinner ready every night. 

But that is the way they want to live. If your parents had an issue with it, it is up to them to discuss with the couple. 

You wouldn’t want your aunt to comment on how you should meet your spouse’s sexual needs either. So why butt in others’ affairs?

Unless you’re asked for your opinion or you see potential violence, keep your opinions to yourself and focus on giving more love.