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They say they have your best interests at heart,
and that they want you to be happy.
But you are happy. Perhaps, with their support, you could be happier. But when their lack of support makes you unhappy, of course you’re not happy – you’re not happy because of their lack of support.
But you’re still happy because you do what you do, you are who you are.
It’s a simple concept but amazingly difficult for many people to grasp.
The truth is, these people are doing what they want, and they are also being who they are. And you don’t even tell them what they should do or who they should be. So why are they insisting that you conform to some ideal you that they have in their minds?
When someone tells you they just want you to be happy, then their actions will usually follow up with what how they want to help you make that happen. And that is simply by supporting you towards what you want.
Believe it or not, there are many people around you right now who do the opposite of what they say. So let’s say a good friend or a family member tells you,
“I want you to be happy.”
Sure, they can want anything they want, but this should be about you, not them. But if one of their life goals is for you to be happy, the next questions they would ask themselves are:
1. What does this person need in order to be happy?
2. What is this person facing now that I could help out with? What can I do to make it better for this person?
So, instead of advising you, your supporter could try to understand specifically what you need and how they can support that.